The new family dynamic is becoming blended families, but the Brady bunch it will never be. My husband and I have a true yours, mine, and ours.
I have a son who is five, he has some challenges from being born early. His father was absent the first four years. My husband was the only father he knew until recently. ( He knew he had a "real" Dad elsewhere but did not know him.) I raised him alone for the first two years, along with the pregnancy alone. Its hard as a single Mother to take on a partner when you get accustomed to doing everything alone. You as a parent get a routine.
My husbands son I have been in his life since he was four months old, he sees me as Mom. But at the end of the day he is not my son, he has a mother and a father who have the final say.
Then there is Ours, the child who is here 24/7 365.
The boys see each other as brothers, no halves, no steps. Just brothers. Which is what is most important in a blended family. The kids should always be number 1.
The parents in the home need to come to an agreement on rules, standards, and expectations of the kids, each other and the household as a whole. Realize there will be arguments on parenting. But remember this happens in non- blended families homes as well. What matters is not letting these arguments become more than they are.
Do NOT pull the "your kid" , "my kid" blame game. Do Not get stuck in the comparison merry-go-round.
At the end of the day realize that no matter the blood in your veins, you are now a family.
No comments:
Post a Comment